Seeing the goodness.

Lately, I’ve really been considering the balance of all this therapy business.  What I mean is. . .with all this talk about hard stuff, and secret stuff and shameful stuff, where’s the carrot, the reward, the freakin’ light at the end of the tunnel?  To put it a little more bluntly; What’s all this soul-searching, deep-emotional-diving, good for?

Good questions.  Sometimes we lose sight of the Why behind our search for Self, for Love, for Connection, for (you fill in the blank).  And for me, I keep coming back to this: I want to increase my capacity for Joy and Love and that inner-smile that feels so damn good because it’s honest.  That’s my carrot, my reward and the reason for doing the deep-emotional-dive. And I’m re-learning and remembering how important it is to strengthen these parts of myself too.  The parts of my Self in this moment that feel Joy and Love and the inner smile that comes from making a real Connection to myself and others.

As important as it is to increase our tolerance for the icky, not so good or pretty feelings, it’s just as important to remember that you also have access to the other side of the emotional spectrum; the good stuff, the sweet and happy places.  So, some of you readers out there may think that this side of things is all hoo-ha and B.S.  And I hear you.  For some people, there have been way more facts to support a mind and heart that are negatively biased.  I get it.  Better to be prepared for the worst than expect the best (because who wants that kind of let down, right?!).

But here’s the thing. . .what do you think happens to the part of you that wants to smile from the inside if the Debbie Downer in you shows up every time a smile starts to hint its way to the corners of your eyes and mouth?  Well, the smile that gets shut down repeatedly may eventually get so far away from us that it’s hard to find and access.

So, what to do?  Well, first and foremost, don’t bullshit yourself.  I don’t believe in positive self-talk that ignores real life hardships.  You can’t sugar coat B.S. for very long before it starts smelling really bad.  What you can do, however, is start small.  Start with one good thing that you can recognize in You, Right Now.  It can be as simple as, “I really like my toe nail polish” or “I really like the shape of my eyes”.  Start simple and believable. Start there and practice it every day.  And then see what happens.  And if it feels right, practice this on someone close to you.  What is something Good, Beautiful or Admirable about them?  And then take it further, can you see the goodness in someone you don’t know?  Or more challenging still, can you see the goodness in someone who you have a really hard time with?  Again, start small, believable and start with You. The more you practice seeing the goodness in yourself, the more capable you are of seeing the goodness around you.

“It never hurts to see the good in someone.  They often act the better because of it”. ~Nelson Mandela

Happy Sunday. . .with love and kindness, Amber



It’s a beautiful and sunny Sunday morning.  I’m reminded of the simple pleasures in life and how soothing it is to find the joy in them.  Like this moment as I’m sitting in my favorite chair and enjoying my coffee and letting that be all that I’m doing.

My invitation for you today is to take a moment, a few minutes if you have it, and just relish whatever you are doing.  Looking for inspiration?  Here’s a few suggestions. . .Get outside and take a moment to look up at the sky and breathe deeply in to your feet.  As you sit down with your food, take a moment to close your eyes and savor.  When you’re on the phone with your bestie, take a second to tell her/him how much you appreciate them and really let that feeling sink in and fill you up.

Whatever it is you’re doing today, take a moment to really pause and be With Yourself In the Moment.  And then notice what happens.  Does anything change?  Do you notice something else?  What happens when we stop and pause and practice Being Here Now?

And as always, be kind and smile to yourself. . .Amber

How do you want to feel today?

1.1.17 late morning

How do I want to feel today?

What is one thing I can do to support that?

Graceful. . .moving through the world with grace and flow.  That’s how I want to feel today.  And so, I will take myself to yoga this afternoon, injury or not, and be kind and gentle to my body and give it the opportunity to Feel graceful and flowing.  I imagine a most beautiful and elegant dancer.  That’s how I want to move.  With ease and beauty and passion and love.

May I be at peace.
May I be open to joy.
May I move in and through the world with grace and flow and love.

Dancing with life.

May you be at peace.
May you be open to joy.
May you move in and through the world with grace and flow and love.

Dancing with life.

May we be at peace.
May we be open to joy.
May we move in and through the world with grace and flow and love.

Let us dance together in the truest spirit of Life; with joy, connection and deep love.

A day for gentleness…

Hello friends, I’ve been sitting with a strong desire to write about our current political climate and why this day feels so important to me.  And before I decide what I want to share and how I want to share it, I thought I’d give myself a minute (or a few days) to sit and be gentle with myself; feel the feelings and come back to my experience from a place of kindness, curiosity and love. In that spirit of patience and gentle, self-care, I decided the best thing I could today, was to share some food with you. Because food is good and nourishing and warm.  And I think that there are quite a few of us out there, right now, who could use a big bowl of that.

With tenderness, gentleness and love from my kitchen to yours. . .Amber

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Coconut Curry Veggie Soup:

Serves up to 8 and is also great to freeze half for another day.

Get these. . .
2 cups vegetable broth
3 Tbsp. Coconut Oil
1 Tbsp. + Curry Powder
1 Tbsp. + Garam Masala
¾ Tbsp. + Turmeric
½ Tbsp. Cumin
¼ – ½  tsp. Chili Flakes
3-5 cloves Garlic roughly chopped
1” piece grated Ginger
1 medium Sweet Onion thinly sliced
1 Green Pepper thinly sliced
2-3 large or 4-5 small Sweet Potatoes cut in to 1” cubes
2 tsp. + Salt
½ tsp. Pepper
1 can of Chickpeas drained
1 can of Lite Coconut Milk (don’t forget to shake it first!)
1 28 oz. can of diced tomatoes
1 Tbsp. natural sweetener of your choice (I used raw sugar .  You could use that or maple syrup or honey or?)
½ large or 1 small zucchini shredded
1 medium carrot shredded
(optional) plain yogurt

And now do this. . .

  • Add 1.5 cups veggie broth to crock pot set on high heat.
  • Heat coconut oil in large pot on low to medium-low heat and add: Curry powder, Garam masala, Turmeric, Cumin, Chili Flakes (adjust amount according to your heat preference:)
  • Bloom* 3 minutes or until fragrant and sizzling!
  • Add: garlic, ginger, sweet onion, green pepper.
  • Turn up heat medium to medium-high and cook 2-3 minutes (I added another Tbsp. of coconut oil here for flavor and to avoid things getting too dry.  Keep an eye and ear out:)
  • Add ¼ cup veggie broth to pan and stir up all seasonings at bottom of pan.
  • Pour everything in to crock pot.
  • Add: sweet potatoes, diced tomatoes, chickpeas, coconut milk.
  • Sprinkle in: ½ tsp pepper, 1 Tbsp. sweetener of your choice, 2 tsp salt, dash of curry powder and garam masala.
  • Give the soup a gentle stir and leave on high for 3 hours until potatoes are soft; could take up to 4 depending on how soft you like your sweet pots.  If you want to cook on low, expect a 6-7 hour cook time.
  • Garnish with shredded carrots and zucchini and salt & pepper as you like!
  • If too spicy, you can add a dollop of plain yogurt.

*curious about blooming spices?  Check out Chef Kev here

And finally, Enjoy Thoroughly!!!

With love from my kitchen to yours, Amber